10 mistakes women make when dating
We shoehorn a guy into the boyfriend role by creating a narrative that reflects not who he is, but who we want him to be. That creates imbalance by giving him all the power in the relationship. When we forfeit our right to stand up for our own needs and wants, our only strategic option is the Ultimatum.
This kind of self-deception can go on for months or even years, until one day we realize we’re in a relationship with a stranger we don’t have anything in common with or even like very much.5. He disappears sometimes for days, then reappears without explanation. The Ultimatum Strategy produces Reluctant Boyfriends at best, Heartless Disposal at worst.
Mistakes are unavoidable in dating, and the best we can hope for is that we learn from them and go on to form good relationships.
I find that women often make poor choices because they suffer from low self-worth.
We like ambition in a man so we get stars in our eyes for the guy who works 100 hour weeks and has no time to dedicate to a relationship.If you’re not both enthusiastically headed towards real commitment, your best strategy is to cut your losses and get back into the dating pool.8.We Fall Victim to the Sunk Cost Fallacy We often stay in bad relationships because we’ve already invested lots time and effort to try and make the relationship work. But this is a poor strategy, because our prior investment is immaterial.So it’s understandable that we don’t want to remain single. The mistake we make is that we exit the dating pool too early out of fear that nothing better will come along.As we age and the supply of potential mates decreases, this fear is understandable.